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There's a great Children's book out there called "Foster Baby". We checke dit out of the library this week. My boys picked it out. Yes I know strange choice along with the where do babies come from books. Anyway it helped them to better understand what fostering is. Plus they both know and talk about how they had other mommies before who took care of them before they got adopted by us. So they're very settled with the idea of having foster children.

We haven't had a child since Mid-November and they're driving me crazy. This time they're hoping for a girl and want to adopt her too. But Om and Raj are a very rare children, settled in and super well-behaved. I still have to pinch myself. Anyway after the boys were placed with us we didn't take any foster children for the first 8-9 months that they were with us. We wanted them to settle in and know that Mommy & Daddy were taking care of them and giving them our full attention. The first foster child we had was a little girl T (2yrs old), who stayed for 2 months before returning to her parents. Both boys wanted to keep her forever, but glad that she went back to her Mommy and Daddy. Then we had a little boy T who was 18 months and stayed for 1 month. He had too many special needs that we weren't told about as well as asthma attacks from our cats. So he had to be moved to a specialized home. I've found it's best to be picky about placements and look to your children to see what they can handle. I know the boys would never be able to handle a boy their age, 3 or 4. So we always take children younger than them. Raj loves to be a big help with younger children and Om likes to play with them. And that's why they're driving me crazy for a foster child.

It seems like your children are really saying "No" to fostering. Just from the acting out at school and the possessiveness of things. If it's hurting them then you either need to help them work through it, or quit fostering.

-LeenaB