jessica, howdy! Sorry so long, O.k. gotta clear something up, i don't think your understanding what im suggesting, or maybe you do, and just don't want to consider it... which is ok as well. but, for clarification purposes, let me just say that i was recommending you call your cps office, tell them that your no longer available to foster any more kids, at this time...... consider having the cw find another home for the 2 that ya'll haven't adopted, and ask the cps office and your cw to put you on an inactive status, that being said, you won't or should not receive any more calls about accepting any babies or kids. i sense that your "addicted' to helping as much as you can. it is an admirable thing, but definitely not at the expense of your kids your family and yourself. your previous email stated how hard its getting for your kids, when the foster children are reunited with bp or relatives, do you really want to subject them and yourself to more of that? no, of course not! Since there are NO certainties in life, why roll the dice and take those risks. your email also said that you do feel like your family is complete, having said that, it makes it sound like you don't feel the need to adopt more kids, the more kids you add to your already existing family, the less there is of you and dad and $ to go around. Its kinda like your predicament is similar to that of an alcoholic's. meaning ........ your compelled and want to foster and love and help, and rescue defenseless kids in need, an alcoholic wants to hang out in bars and drink, if he continues to hang out in bars around alcohol, he'll always drink. If you continue to remain as an active foster parent, you'll continue to get those calls, do you feel somewhat pressured to keep saying YES??? It's ok to say NO, all Im saying is pray on it and really, really think about if your able to continue fostering without it being an emotional upset for you and your family, if it is causing that much concern, you really should re-think what it's all about. hope i've been helpful. I'm definitely not trying to come off opinionated, or that i have all the answers, 'cause i don't , just trying to shed some light on the situation. I will follow your story, feel free to pm anytime, jessica. Malificient....
