The first time I took my foster children to the dentist the receptionist knew the story (since they are a Medicaid dentist and it took FOREVER to find them) so we got through the waiting area and the forms fine but after the examination the desntist asked me to wait in the lobby and I refused to leave my fson and he seemed upset. I asked him why and he said he was planning to call CPS on me since my fson had the worse case of sub-gumline tooth decay he had ever seen and the neglect that could cause this had to be criminal.
I was flabbergasted. I am a sw-er and I gave him my card and gave him the name of my child's caseworker and said that he is a foster child and that they both suffered from neglect, period. He apologized and treated them both well and we still go to that dentist. Medicaid-accepting dentists are not a diem a dozen and apart form wanting to call CPS on me
he has been a great dentist to the kids.
My children are 5 and 7, they remember their mother and feel the need to explain sometimes that their "real" mom couldn't be their mommy because she has a disease but that I take good care of them and we are a family because we love each other and take care of each other. Over Christmas we had an older member of a collegue's family ask me, point blank, where their mother was (even after I told her that these children are with me because their mother cannot parent them right now) and my seven year old said her mother was ill and walked away and so did I. Sometimes people are very insensitive.