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wow! well i really hope the new-ness works in your favor, after all, you are your sons' family, the only family he's really known! we had a sort of similar situation. i got married when my daughter was 4, almost two years later her bfather decided he wanted to be involved in her life and sent us letters from lawyers for vistation... we held out for six mo. with lawyers writing letters, and finally went to court where they gave him vistation immediately(after no contact from ages 18 months-6! he came to visit about 6 times (he lives 5 hrs from here) and fought in court to have us have to bring her to his town for a visit once every 3 months. we had to go once, and then he called and asked for the adoption, as the travel and child support etc was too expensive for him... it definitely showed where his values are! a week after our adoption went through he called to ask if child support obligation was finished, and didn't ask to speak with her, or even how she is...nothing! i couldn't believe it. hope your judge can see the true colors of this guy. i think it also helps if you keep records of exactly when he has last seen your son, when he has payed child support, and how much he has not payed (his arrears). do you only have one judge in your county? (because if you are not comfortable with him, you can request to be heard by another)
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