[taramayrn]

Stephanie,
I am sorry this has happened. I'm sure it is very confusing and scary. I don't have any insight as to what this pbmom is thinking. Possibly wanting to "hold" on to her baby and the thought of being this baby's mom as long as possible. I agree with you that meeting before hand might be beneficial and will help you all to develop a trusting relationship, however there are alot of professionals in the adoption field who are supporting adoptive and birthfamilies meeting after baby has been born and placement is iminent. They say it reduces pressure to place, etc. Anyways, I would try and be patient (I know easier said than done) and wait until you hear from the adoption worker. Maybe just ask the worker to pass on a message to mom saying you are ready to meet her whenever she is and for her to take her time.
Keep us updated and best of luck.