I'm in the process of a private adoption. We were just chosen by the expectant mom today and are scrambling to get medical releases and everything in order, as she wants to move up here for the birth and is due in mid Feb! She isn't working with a lawyer or agency, so the total fees should stay under 10K, and she seems really committed to her adoption plan and my lawyer talked with her today and felt she is really sincere. So, while I haven't finished this adoption, we feel cautiously optimistic and hopeful.
Our lawyer also told us about 80% of adoptions in this country are private, non-agency adoptions and that many many potential birthmoms connect with adoptive parents by looking at websites and advertisements online.
Again, our story isn't quite finished yet, but we only decided to adopt in Nov, I put up one ad about us on the net in December, we got at least three leads in as many weeks and we are matched as of this morning. Now we scamble to get everything else in line (homestudy, etc etc).
Good luck to you! I hope everything works out for you with this potential birthmom, and that the birthfather comes around.
Erin
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mama to biscuit, 2/05 
and hanni 12/06 
through domestic open transracial adoption.
No one is free, when others are oppressed.
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