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Originally Posted By Karen

Susan,
I'm with Bonnie and Gaby - this is normal!!! Don't try to make too much of it; just take one day, or one hour at a time and get as much rest as possible. I'm the adoptive mother of twin boys who are now 20 months old. I can't even begin to tell you, without doing some MAJOR whining, how hard it was to get through those first months. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. Why I didn't just instantly, deeply, and spiritually bond with the little guys when I first brought them home. I was so scared of them! And then I found out that even mothers who deliver their babies feel this way sometimes too and it all works out.

In retrospect,if I could do it over again, I would really try to relax, not be so hard on myself, and trust that God brought these new lives into my life for a reason, and enjoy them as much as I could. Its really strange that I was so stressed out during that time, and tired, that now I have a hard time remembering them as newborns.
It only gets better, Susan, hang in there. You're going to be a terrific mom!