[sfbaymom2000]

Thanks Howdy and Leena. Your responses were helpful in knowing what to possibly expect with visits.

Roxanna, thank you for your opinions, but I never said I had any intention of not complying with a court order. We are hopeful that the court order may be rescinded or modified. If you must know, the behavior was absolutely serious enough to warrant that. I am sure you would not want your child subjected to a person who vicitmized her. I think my last sentence made it very clear that I understood the decision would be up to SW's, therapists, and the court.

Roxana, I understand your point that we should not try to hide anything or act as if it is shameful. Again, I don't believe I said anywhere that I would not "allow" M to talk about her birth family...with me or with anyone else. However, I still don't believe I have any obligation to enlighten every all the details of M's family and history. If they ask her directly, she can answer whatever she wants, although I think that would be inappropriate for an adult to ask her.

If I am asked, I will try the response suggested, that her siblings are in other homes and are happy there.