[chyna58@aol.com]

I was born 4/7/1958 in I think Bethesda, Md. Catholic charities of course was the adoption agency. Due to several health problems, my (Mom) took me to Catholic Charities to try to get any type of information that we could. I was about 15/16 years old at the time.Everything that was told to my adoptive parents at the time of my adoption, was completely different from what they told my Mom & I years later. I have a child that was born in 1975 that I was given no choice to keep by my Parents, and they made me give my Son up for adoption through Catholic Charities. At the time of his birth we did not know that the story of my own birth would be so completely different. I am a 46 year old women that sits on both sides of the adoption table. I
am crushed at the lies that were promised to me at the time that I gave my own Son up. My Son will be 30 years old in August and there is not a day that goes by that I don't shed a tear for him. I ache to tell him that he was always Loved and always wanted, but thanks to Catholic Charities I may never get that chance. I was raised Catholic and was raised to trust people, someone explain to me how you are supposed to do that when the people that hold the most important thing to your heart have lied to you!
I grew up hateing my birth mother, and that is an easy word to say, but to actually feel hate is a terrible way to live. I hated her because I beleived that what catholic charities told me was the truth and that she never loved me and never wanted me. And I have gone through 29years praying to God that my own Son did'nt hate me as well because I don't know what they might have told him about me. Ther must be some type of law that is being broken by these lies being told by Catholic Charities . We all row up and we deserve answers, and by telling the truth they could also be saving lives. Medical problems that maybe if we knew about early on could be taken care of. I wonder how many of these Nuns and other employees that work for Catholic Charities would feel if they lost there child and that child was found and alright but noone ever said anything to them that their child was safe, alive and loved! God bless them on judgement day...........