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Here's a brief history, my husband and I have been trying to conceive for almost 3 years now, and are about to proceed with an IUI in the next few months. Over the holidays, my brother and his girlfriend, who already have a 1-yr old son, and have one on the way, due in July, approached us with the proposal for us to adopt the 2nd baby, as they "would be in way over their heads with 2". They are young, 19 & 23, and are trying their best, but do struggle when it comes to parenting, as they have somewhat unhealthy lifestyles. Thankfully, they are well supported from both families. They have expressed that if we decided not to adopt, then they would keep it, as they couldn't handle the two siblings not knowing each other. I have no question in my mind that I'll agree to adopt, however my husband has some reservations, that it would close the door for us to have our own, which I've reassured him that it wouldn't change our plans, it would just mean we'd be busier than expected for the first while!
Are there any others with similar situations, who could offer some advise, personal experiences, etc.
I feel that in time, he'll warm up to the idea, is there anything I could do to help ease his mind?
Thanks,
Abby