[sfbaymom2000]

Thanks for the guidance. You all have some good points. It is not that I am trying to hide anything - it's more that I don't want to give out too much personal information (why they were removed, why they were split up, etc.) when it is not necessary. I know the mention of siblings will lead to those questions, but I guess I will just have to deal with them (stating that that information is private). I also like the explanation offered by lovemy6, that it wasn't possible at placement, and also leeab's response that they have their own homes and are happy there.

When M talks about her brother, or one other birth relative, I listen and encourage her to tell me more. Sometimes I say that I bet she misses them, and it is okay to talk about it if she feels sad. I am not worried about the relationship between C and M, just worried about people who are overly curious about the details.

One other thing that complicates things right now is that I don't want to be saying "She has X siblings", when she seems to be only remembering one. Of course she will need to know about the others, and there is some talk of sibling visits down the road. But with all she is going through right now, and has gone through, I don't want to confuse her more at this time. I guess if she is only talking about *, and someone asks who that is, I will say he is her brother. But if they then ask if she has any other siblings, what do I say at that point? I am just trying to be prepared. Thanks so much for the input!