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I was adopted at 6 weeks and always knew I was adopted-I must have been told at a very early age.Reading this thread I've tried to imagine how I would have felt if I had not been told and had found out by accident.I think I would feel livid,totally betrayed.Whatever the reasons I would not be able to believe that the choice to lie to me was out of love.I could fully imagine myself cutting myself off from my parents completely and never trusting another person.If you cannot trust the people who bring you up who can you trust?
I know this sounds extreme and emotional, but the emotional pain and trauma an adopted child/adult goes through on discovering such deception must be almost unbearable.
Unfortunately I think there are more adoptees that are lied to than we would like to think.All of us are capable of saying the right words to get approved to adopt.Maybe there should be a way that adoptees are told about their adoption at a certain age by an outside agency of some sort so that adoptive parents would not be able to decieve their children,
Jude
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