As long as I live I will never understand what makes an adoptee reject their adoptive family after reuniting with their bfamily. Maybe it's because I had was adopted by a great family. Not perfect, but still a great family.
I understand that parents feel threatened and I guess my answer has been reaffirmed by love4. I have tried to put myself in everyone's shoes (I'm in reunion for 3 yrs) to try understand how each person feels (bparents and aparents) and I've come to the conclusion that everyone gets hurt. My parents are hurt because they think I'm rejecting them, when really it's not about them. My bfather is hurt because he thinks I should choose him and well bmom is still picking up the pieces of a lost youth.
So back to my original question, "why do parents get hurt when their adoptive child searches?", and how can adoptees let them know it has less to do with them and more to do with
the search for self ?