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I'm a firm believer that anyone should tell their child that 'they're adopted' from infancy...whether the child understands it or not. To 'not tell' is to give the message that 'adoption isn't as 'good' as birth'.....and that line of thinking is soooooo wrong!
Not only will she see the parents as untrustworthy (once the truth is known...and it will be-- at some time).....but from that moment, my reading is that the child will feel like the adoptive parents AREN'T really her parents! She will feel cheated and betrayed by them.
Adoption should not be viewed as a 'second thing to birth'.....but as a wonderful thing from the get-go. To keep it 'hidden' implies 'something is/was wrong in the first place'....and nothing could be further from the truth---except that this couple is choosing to lie to their child.
Sincerely,
Linny
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