[csimmons]

Our biomom knows where we live, go to church, where I work, etc... My reasons for changing our fdaughter's name is not so that the mother can't find us. Up until a few months before TPR, when she began using drugs again, we were on good speaking terms with her and her family. I know one day she will get things together and want to make contact. We in no way are trying to keep her from doing that. We have two adopted boys that we've been very open with each of their birthparents. I was a little offended by your response above and yes, we, mothers have to do what we feel is best. Because our fdaughter had such a traumatic time visiting with her biomom, we feel it would be in her best interest to change her name. Sometimes, a name can bring back feelings of trauma.