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Not all children were taking away from abusing Parents and also my spelling is not the greatest in the world. There are people out there that are very well off, and they are bad writters. Some parents years ago had the child taking away because they were to young, or for other reasons of their own. Some of these parents were under age and did not sign away their babies, either their parents did, or they were sucked in some how. There is a lot of stories out there. I heard of adopted parents abusing their new children they claim to be keeping safe from what? I know there is children in foster care being abused. What good is screening a family if this still happens. I know this because, I have a teen child with me right now, he was moved around now and then from home to home until he was 7. He was lifted up by his neck, beat with a wooden spoon and Sexally assalted and so on. Mind you, he did have a couple of good homes. I read stories on the internet of children that have been adopted out to familes who abused them all their childhood lives growing up. Then there were those that had the best adoption going, with very loving adopted parents. I am ashamed of myself for not paying attention to what was going on with my sisters boys, I always thought that the foster homes they were in, kept them safe. I thought that childern were put into one home and stayed there until they had grown. I also knew my sisters boys had FAS and other problems, which made me think they were better off were they were because they were getting the help they needed. Yes! I stayed away for years. Also, my sister didn't have her childern until she was in her late thirtys. Now my childern are grown up, and I am a mother again. It's when I found out my sister passed away, which I didn't know until 6 months after her passing, thats when I went looking for her boys. I didn't live in the same Province as my family, because I wanted to keep my own childern safe from certain famliy members. My husband and I did not plain to take the children away from the homes they were in, we just wanted to be able to see them now and then, so they knew we were here for them. We went to see the boys and they were not in the same homes together and they never seen each other much. Both foster mothers had the boys for about 7 years. They both told us that they were about to give up on foster care. One mother was single and just had a grandchild and she wanted to pay more attention to the grandchild, and also enjoy some of her life. And the other, she was 69 years old, And as I speak, she is in Mexico with her husband. Both women are welcomed in my home any day for all they did for those boys. And they do visit. I can't take that away from them. I will say both women were in their glory when we showed up. I was told by their case worker that, they didn't know anything about me, they never knew there was another sister. And they were really happy we came forward. Even some case workers are not inpressed with their system. We had to build another room in our home, in order to have the boys. We had them for 7 months now and they are really good boys, better behaved then normal childern without medical problems. We are adopting the boys. By the way the boys were up for adoption years ago and nobody wanted them because, they were not babies, and or they had FAS. I have learned a lot about the system, FAS and foster care in the last few months. I wish I knew sooner. I read a lot on other peoples problems and some are good and some are bad. Everybody thinks different. I also thought I knew it all, but I don't and never will. Oh! by the way, I also lived in one foster home for a few months as a child. I was treated very well. Adopting the boys for us, is to give them both the same last name and also for them to feel a belonging and loved dearly. They are 15 going on 10, and 10 going on five. (FAS)
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