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thanks!!
The bmom knows we are only here for a while because we are a military family. That's why it didn't really bother me that we have visits. we live on base so things are very secure...she can't just show up at our door step when ever she wants. We will only have visits at places like chuck-e-cheese where they have a security thing in place (they stamp your hand and check every childs hand to make sure it matches the parents, before they leave) or other secure places with lots of people.
Yesterday and today ...after our continued talks about momma M. I think she is finally starting to understand. Out of the blue she will come up to me grab my leg and say...."You my mommy"...."I luv you mommy"....and "No Momma M house bye...you my mommy."
It fills my heart with so much joy...to hear "you my mommy", I know things will work out between all of us. I just hope she understands...after her visits..and we don't keep going through this over and over.
Our little girl looks exactly like her bmom....so everytime i look at her i think of her bmom...and everytime i look at her bmom I see my little girl as a beautiful young lady. I duess that's why I think it is extra important to have some contact...because they do look so much alike and have so much in common....as far as personality goes.
I just hope that as my little girl gets older she will realize she doesn't have to make the same mistakes in life....she can make her own mistakes..as everyone does...I just don't want her to follow to much in her bmom's foot steps.
I never thought I would be at this point in my life....so deepley in love with someone else's birth child and be able to adopt her as my own....yet have to share her with someone else who loves her equally as much as I do. I never imagined an open adoption until after reading all the posts on this website....which has opened my eyes to all the good that it brings...as well as all the difficulties.
Thank you all for your support!!!
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