Tiffany,
I don't know if you have thought about this, but you could get social security for the baby if the father has died. I don't know if you were married or not, but if you were, you could apply to get financial aid from the military. I read somewhere that if the spouse was killed in the line of duty you can apply to recieve all or some of his paycheck until you are remarried. I read that it is very difficult because everyone gives you the runaround and not very many people know about it. We just recieved our Japanese son he is now 3 1/2 weeks old. I support your decision to place your baby, but wanted to let you know that you have other options.
Our adoption was extremely easy so far. We are stationed here in Japan and found a woman who was in her last trimester. She is a professional musician (harp player) This is her second son she has given up. From the time we found her from the time we had him in our home at 5 days old was only about 8 weeks.
But now everyone thinks that it is that easy to adopt. There is a couple at church (military)that after years of failed infertility treatments, they adopted their son and now have been trying to adopt through our church adoption agency for over two years. We had only started the process about 6 weeks before we came across our birthmother. Anyways, I can see that it is very hard for her to talk about it. She tears up just talking to me about it. We have had several people call us and ask us how to adopt so quickly. They don't understand that it is a difficult process to find a birthmother. We were just extremely lucky. My husbands cousin has suddenly had interest in us (after 5 years of trying to concieve the are thinking about adoption)
Tiffany or Danielle, if you would like to talk to an adoptive parent or just feel you need a little support, send me an e-mail.
ingrum3@yahoo.com or PM me.
Ted
It takes a special father to adopt while he is single. Have you ever thought about adopting again? Congrats to you on a job well done and overcomming so many problems that cause most people to not want to adopt an older child. Being a parent isn't always fun, but it is always worth it. I am sure that your young man is proud to call you his father.
Lyndsi