[gerberbabies]

I am what I'm learning you call a birth mom. I am now almost 14 weeks pregnant, and looking into finding the right family for my child. I have 3 kids already (ages 1,5,& 6) and have realized I can not do this again. I love my children all the way. And the thought of NOT knowing what is happening in this child's life once he/she leaves my arms would kill me. I wasn't sure how much of an open adoption you could have (getting pictures, how often you could keep in contact, etc) which is why I'm here to learn more. But this is the only way I want an adoption to take place. I see in the movies the kids finding out at 18 that they're adopted, and some start that long search of finding their birth mom/parents. I don't want this child to go through that pain. I hope that when I do choose a family, it is the right one. But through an open adoption, you can make sure at all times you made the right choice (if that makes sense?). And to be honest, if a family I'm considering doesn't want this, I would be worried. It's as if they're wanting to hide something almost. And through contact, they can learn more about my background and family, so that this child can learn it later on. I think it benefits everyone in the long run. The adoptive parents can then also learn more about the child by learning more about the birth mom.... Hope that all makes sense. Thanks to whoever started this website. I have a feeling this will help alot!