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Crick-I love the concept of "is this normal for my kid?" I have always struggled with how to decide where the behaviors/traits are originating. I ask, "is this age, teen angst? is this depression? is this the time of the year? or is this just plain old kids are confusing to parent?" Not worrying about normal or typical is hard because we so want our adopted/ abused kids to lead productive lives. My goal is a happy, productive member of society who can have relationships. This is no different than birth children. What would I be like if I had been abandoned or mistreated or asked to fend for myself. Would I be "normal", Am I normal if I choose to take on a special needs kid?????
Open eyes are crucial, but realistic optimism can be a help too.
Karen
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