Hi Bendreamn01,
I'm sorry to hear about your husband blocking you out. I know just how that feels, especially after so long trying biologically. I think alot of us feel like after all that time we just can't wait to get going once we see hope through adoption. I wish I could give you a magic phrase which will suddenly open up your husband and convince him, but I don't know what those words are. I will say that having just recently survived a similar cold war feeling silence from my husband, there is hope, and it takes patience. The more I pushed and asked the more he seemed to resist, it took me a while but I finally realized that he need time to work it out his way (quietly with in himself). To me it seemed he didn't care or that he wasn't really thinking about it, because when I am considering something, I talk it out. His way might just be different. Good Luck to the both of you.