[snuffie]

Hi!

I am an adoptee who also knew all of my life that I was adopted.
I had wonderful adoptive parents whom I loved with all of my heart.
But all of my life I had wanted to search for and meet my birth parents. And I found out who my bmom was 4 years ago. My birth mom had passed away before I found her so my reunion is with my many birth siblings. Let me tell you there is nothing like it in the world! When I look in the mirror now I see my bmom smiling back at me. A lot of my health history questions have been answered and I have this wonderful family who welcomed me with open arms. I felt a very strong connection right away.

My adoptive parents were aware of my search but they passed away before it came to an end. But had they been alive I know that they would have welcomed my birth family as just more people to love. They were just that way.

It sounds like you too have wonderful, understanding adoptive parents. How lucky we both are. Mine did not understand my need to search at first. They were from a time when adoptive parents were told that if they did a good job of parenting we would never have the need to search. How wrong that is.
I don't know when you were adopted but maybe it would be a good idea to let them know that you are not trying to replace them in any way and let them know how much you love them.

Reunions are very emotional and also a lot of work. But so worth it. But only you can decide what you want in your very personal reunion. Sometimes it is just better to let things unfold naturally and not try to predict how they will go or force them.

I am excited for you. Please PM me if you want to "chat" and I wish you much happiness.
Snuffie