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DanteM.
I think you are looking at this situation in a very positive and realistic way - especually in view of the way it happened. I am an adoptee who had very much a similiar growing up - a family in which I was totally loved, parents who told me from the beginning I was adopted. They always said my birthparents had loved me very much but had to give me up because of circumstances they couldn't control.
I began my search not with the intentions of contact, but rather I just wanted to know if they had been able to have a realistically happy life. Little did I dream when I started out that I would actually meet one of them or their family, but that's what happened 30 years after I started my search. Mom (**) initiated the desire for contact after my brother from my afamily contacted her as my intermediary.
That was almost 6 years ago and I am so grateful that I found her. Although I call her Mom, she has in no way replaced my Mother and Daddy. She has always insisted that they are my parents and is so grateful to them for loving me. I am glad that I have been able to be a part of closure for her after 58 years. She had no other children and never married. She talked to no one, except God for those 58 years - not even her closest friend who later became her sister-in-law. The family has opened up to me with welcome arms and we have become good friends and share a strong bond of love.
Only you can make the decision on whether you want contact with her. Think carefully and search your heart. Know what you are wanting as far as a relationship but be open to what your heart leads you to do. It is an emotional time - for everyone concerned. But take it slowly and you will know what is right.
Please feel free to PM me if there is anything I can do to help or support. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Hugs,
Carol
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