[DanteM]

Hi,
I received a letter today asking me to call about a personal matter. It was a social worker announcing me my bmother would like to contact me. The call lasted about half an hour. He talked about my mother and the context of my birth. It seems my bmother went trough a lot and had to give me away for adoption. I was calm and neutral during the whole call and I agreed for him to tell her I was fine. When I hung up the phone, it hit me hard and I'm very confused.
I'm 37 and was adopted 35 years ago. As far as my adoptive familly, I couln't ask for more. I was accepted as a full familly member from the start and I always knew I was adopted. There was never a doubt in my mind that my adoptive familly was my real familly. I was nerver curious about my bparents because I was in a loving familly and I never felt the need for something else.
I haven't agreed to meet her but I think it might be a good thing. It would probably fill in a few blank spots in my life and it would be a good thing just to let my bmother know that I'm living a good life and that every thing is fine. I'm not sure if I'm willing to go for a relationship with my bmother. I'm afraid to be turned upside down by all this especially since I didin't look for this in the first place. I also don't know how to approach it with my adoptive familly. I have to tell them because I love them too much but I wouldn't want to upset them. I have to let them know that I'm not looking for a new familly and that I think my bmother deserves to meet me once.
I said it to one of my adoptive sister and she was very supportive.
Anyway, enough rambling about it. I feel better just writing about it and I will now sleep on this. Thanks for your support.