[poullafouca]

Hi everyone, our expectant mother lives in a horrid place. She resides in a dump with her ex, who is the father of her three kids (who are in foster care). Her ex has a new woman and three children with her, a couple more relatives live there and it isn't that secure and they aren't that nice to her.

Our expectant mother called me today and asked me to co-sign for an apartment for her. My lawyer and husband say NO!!!! I understand why, the young lady is broke, has terrible credit and is really in a bit of a state. When this baby is born regardless of any mind changing that may or may not occur, social services will take the baby if she doesn't go ahead with the adoption plan.

Our social worker and the attorney told me to (if I must) look into apartment hotels, you know, long stay kind of thing.
She will be having a c-section, so the SW said secure her a place until eight weeks after the birth. We also have a financial arrangement to help her to get an apartment after the birth/adoption.

I don't know what to do, she is in a bad place, she is pregnant, I know that I can't make everything right in her life, and we are not millionaires. The SW also said you cannot spend fortunes because of the law, meaning that you need to show how much money you have actually spent in front of a judge at finalization. Meaning, buying babies is not acceptable.

She needs to live in that area so that she can visit with her children on a weekly basis.

I want to help her, but need informed advice.

Hellllllppppp!!

Poulla