[CordeliaS]

I understand how important it is for adoptees to know that they are adopted... but what if they're not told? My sister recently adopted a baby who looks like a biological child. My husband and I were planning on adopting a child as well, whether the child would look like us is unknown. My sister is planning on pretending the child is biologically hers. Is this harmful if the child never finds out... I don't think so... right? I'm only scared that someday my niece might find out she is adopted, and will think her parents lied to her. Any adivce would be greatly appreciated!