[maxinne]

Hi everyone
I am new here, and I have many questions and concerns. Dh and I are planning to begin the adoption process very soon. Here it is;Has anyone out there successfully adopted, and also had these circumstances?

1. Dh and I are both in a 12 step program for addiction. Dh clean 12 yrs & I am clean 8 yrs clean.

2. I have been treated for depression, and was on an antidepressant for many years. I am no longer taking medication, however I still see a therapist.

Here are my questions;

1. How honest should we be? (we have been told from several people in our situation that they weren't honest,yet, have successfully completed their adoption's)

2. Are my mental health records confidential? or will they have access to them?

3. Based on this information, what would be our best bet; International, domestic, or foster care?

The truth is, although I know this information is asked for the best interest of the child, a part of me is resentful that our past has to be opened up like this, just because we don't have the "right plumbing". Today we are both productive members of society. My dh has been with the same company for 9 yrs, and I have been working with special needs preschoolers as a teachers assistant since 2000. We also have owned our own home for over 2 years, and have been married for over 4 years.
If anyone can help us with this I would be very grateful.
Maxinne