[seeking2adopt]

This is my first post on the birthparents board, and I hope that it is okay to ask this question here (I have also asked it on the adoptive parents board) ...

We have been matched for a little over a month, and the initial plan was for us to meet with the potential birthparents within a couple of weeks. However, pbmom told the adoption coordinator on Friday that everything is coming so quickly, and she does not want a meeting right now, or before the baby.

Any thoughts on this from your experience? We definitely want to be sensitive to her needs, but also feel that a meeting would be very beneficial for both sides to share our hopes and fears and expectations.

I had written a poem and framed it, intending to give it to her as a gift at our first meeting. Would it be appropriate/inappropriate to give it to her via the adoption coordinator as a way to reach out, even if we don't meet prior to the birth? Would a letter be appropriate/inappropriate?

Thank you in advance for your input!