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I would agree in changing the babies name, but also the system should also have the information on the child on where the child came from. If the child was abused, the safety of the child comes first, and I sure wouldn't want the abuser anywhere near this child ever. Nobody has the right to hurt a child in any form, and it really bothers me when you hear a parent has a child in froster care and the child has been abused by this parent, and this child can not be put up for adoption while he or she are young, because of the parents rights. Also, this can go on for years, and then the child is a mess in a lot of cases, and they do get lost in the system. This really breaks my heart. I also believe that a child that was giving up for adoption, by a loving parent ,should have the right to know about the adoption when they are old enough to understand. I have a sister out there somewhere 50 or so years old, In my mothers case, she was 15 at the time which meant she had no rights. My Grandparents had the say who gets the child, mom was hurt. My mother lost four children, my half sister out there somewhere, and three sisters passed away. One sister at brith, another was 8 years old and we just lost the third a little over a year ago, she was 49. My husband and myself are raising her children, 10 and 15, (special needs children). Our children are raised and we have 6 Grande children. My half sisters adoption is in closed files in Ont. By the sounds of it, they are trying to get the files opened in Ont for all adopions, but only adoptions after the 1960? I have a need to know my half sister, but if she knew about me and she didn't want to go there, I would let it go, because of my love for her. Sometimes I wonder if a lot of files are lost, or there were a lot of bad adoptions before 1960s, why keep the files closed? Well thats it, I hope I didn't bore anyone, just needed to write my feelings out, we all have our own thoughts on this subject, its our right, thats what makes us all special in our own sort of way. Sheila
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