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thoughts...
Hi Purduegrad,
I want to encourage you in your journey. It isn't easy for any members of the triad, including full siblings. Did they know about you before you were introduced? (hope I didn't missed that info in one of your postings).
It also sounds like your birthfather is experiencing pressure from your siblings...(kinda like sibling rivalry and that's normal). When I say *normal* I am suggesting that perhaps you are fitting in more than it might seem.
My advice? (since you're asking). Stay consistent and don't allow yourself to react (at least not in front of them)...people in these kinds of situations seem to be attracted to those that do not falter or whose buttons are easily pushed. Does that make sense?
Perhaps your birthfather will "get it" and see you for the person that you are today. In the meantime, know that there are those of us who do understand the crazy-making in the adoptees world and we're behind you cheering loudly and waving our pom-poms.
AzUrE
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