[thesojourners]

you will both be ready.

That said, lots of conversations (and maybe a few great books and articles left in conspicious places!) can help someone get to "that time" a little more quickly! :-) But I agree with you other posters that you can't force a spouse into being more enthusiastic . . . you just need to take your time. It is such an arduous process that it takes a joint effort to make it through!

Perhaps your spouse would be open to making a plan such as, "if we're not pregnant by such-and-such a date, let's pursue an adoption."

We actually waited to have kids, then decided to have bio kids first, and then our "surprise" adopted daughter came along via private, direct placement. We still don't have bio kids (still waiting), but our two-year-old daughter is the light of our lives.

Anne