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eeehhhhh.
Heck, my husband claimed he wanted to adopt INSTEAD of having biokids! However he also procrastinated over getting started, something awful. One thing that helped was honesty -- I told him poker faced, I DID NOT want to manipulate him into something he did want. I told him I would not turn on the tears or stamp my foot to get my way, but I really, really wanted to do this. He respected my sincerity, went along and got things done as needed, and now is the doting Papa of the most severe "electra complex" daughter case, I have ever seen!
He still holds back feelings for our son in process, whom we have not yet met. I think men are just more reticent on embarking on this and investing emotion in someone they do not know.
Good luck,
Linda
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