This may not be an appropriate reply to your post, however, I am in a very similar situation and am looking for the same help.
My husband found out five years ago that the man he was told was his biological father (who was entirely absent) was actually NOT his father. His mother had lied to him to protect his feelings. He was doing contstruction on a house and felt drawn to the homeowner. To make a very long story short, he received a phone call from this homeowner asking if he would submit to a DNA test because he believed he was his biological father. The test proved his theory correct.
Since the DNA test, my husband has remembered meeting a man when he was about 8 years old ~ his biological father. So now we have discovered that his b father has known about him all along.
We are a very successful couple with a wonderful son. We've done it all by ourselves through hard work and determination and do not need anyone for anything financially or materialistically. It has always seemed as though his step siblings, of which there are four, have despised us since our introduction. They werent avoiding us, but instead would do things to intentionally hurt us. The most recent was the absolute worst.
We were invited to a mutual relatives wedding upon where I was attacked by my husbands half sister as he was being attacked by one of his half brothers.
We no longer know what to do.
My husband has NEVER had a father, and this finding was his answer from God. Now he wonders what he has done to deserve this contact rejection and hurt.
My advise to ANY AND EVERY ONE looking for their birthparents is to make sure that it is actually what you want. Remember Pandoras Box.
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