I am sorry for your unfortunate situation. I believe a step family adoption must be carefully weighed, and that every case is different. My daughter desperately wants to be adopted by my husband. We have lived with him for two years and during this time they have bonded and fallen in love as father and daughter should. My daughter's biological father has only been in her life when it is convenient for him. Now he is being very selfish and is fighting us on the adoption. My daugter is ten and fully understands that this will severe the ties to her biological father. She knows that she is able to communicate with him if she wished to, but she doesn't want to and has told her biological father this. Our family consists of myself, my husband, my daughter, two step-daughters and my husband and I have a 7 months old little boy. My daughter calls my husband dad and would love nothing more than to be adopted and to take our family name. Her heart is broken that her natural father is not allowing her what he has deprived her of for years, a real dad. My husband is her dad in all of our hearts but we must make it official so that if anything should happen to me my daughter will be able to grow up with her other siblings. My daughter has never even spent the night at her biological father's home. He is a stranger to her. So although you feel that you were coaxed into being adopted and you feel your situation has had a negative outcome please try to understand that there are a lot of loving individuals out there that will make wonderful step mothers and fathers to kids who have never felt the safety, love, comfort and security that these people provide these children.
