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Many agency claim that part of the fees they charge goes to help pay for birthmother expenes. I know one we checked into said 5000 went for that....and neither of our childrens birthparents requested any where near that in expenses...including counseling. And that was on top of any legals. As an adoptive parent, I have questioned just "where the money goes" and rarely get a clear cut answer.
My guess is the adoptive parens were told that the fee they paid went to support you in some way, and when they found out you did not recieve any money related services....they were wondering the same question, "where does the money go"
I think adoptive parents and birthparents are really kept in the dark about this issue a lot of the time. I did have one social worker say to me (not any I chose to work with) after telling me the placement plan...not to forget the certified check! So cold! I am sure the birthmother she was working with would have been shocked too.
Kathy
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