[michellemartin]

I understand about wanting to not cut off a possible relationship for your daughter. When I first started going through profiles I really wanted a family that would be open so Karma could know her sister. I wasnt sure then if I would want to be a part of that then. I wanted for Karma to be able to go every other year to spend a weekend with them. With or without me depending on if I could have a relationship with them. Maybe Marie's parents would be open to having your daughter visit every other year when she gets older. I had this sort of relationship with my cousins who live in another state. I was able to know them, and form a relationship with them. Yeah, it was mostly letters and phone calls, but those visits always will mean something to me.

I left a group... and no one noticed... at least someone cared enough to notice.

You will be okay. Do you want the letter technique from John Gray? It can be pretty helpful. If you'd like it let me know and I'll pm it to you. It might help to have that "format" to write out your feelings to Marie's parents. I really think you should tell them how you are feeling.

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