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I thank you all so much! I'm sitting here overwhelmed! We adopted our little guy nearly eight years ago from China because we worried so much about birth parents coming to get him (it was so previlent in the news then); and we worried about the huge list of special needs domestically. It turns out, our little guy came to us with physical special needs and unknown family history--and everyone told us NOT to accept him--obviously we did--the rest is history--not one person could say it was not the right decision--but some still say they would have turned his referral down back then. A genetic syndrome diagnosed, three surgeries and he is and always will be the best yes we ever said. That all said, we dream of making the right decision with all the information we can; we are so ignorant in our belief that love, understanding, etc. etc. can heal any child. I ask all of you with experience: do you have regrets? Would you adopt this child again? Is this child better off in your home than any other? You love your children--does that and the happiness that comes through--make the difference? I am sad that looking to add more love and looking to welcome a hurt child into your home results in impossibly painful decisions. Ignorance--yes--but gaining insight.
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