[HappyMomAnna]

....Sexual abuse cannot be erased from a child....a loss of innocence is lost and once the door of sexualized behavior is opened it cannot be shut.

....I was sexually abused.

...I have adopted a little girl that has been sexually abused.


Knowledge of sexual behavior is a very big risk and danger to other children--younger for sure and even older children who have yet to know about sex in the first place.

NO--a sexually abused child is not LOST forever--and might NEVER perp on other children--I didn't and never even thought of it... But--my sweet little girl does and does not care who it is...

Our daughter believes that it is LOVE to grab her fathers privates... Announces at the dinner table how good it feels to touch her own....and how she will never stop....has publicly displayed sexual behaviors....and would molest any little boy she could get her hands on....She draws sexually explicit pictures...asks kids during swim class to show her their privates and in general needs to be watched at all times.... Even around he OWN biological baby brother....

Her new grandfather was horribly upset when she grabbed him...

My oldest daughter is not happy because she cannot bring her boyfriend to our house--because her little sister wants to sit on his lap or begs the two of them to kiss in front of her....

Our sweet little 6 year old has told her male therapists that she wants to have his baby and that they should 'twiddle with each others privates...to make a baby.'

We love her completely and we are equipped to deal with her issues.... We have alarms on bedroom doors and she is NEVER permitted to spend anytime alone with her brother.... He is nearly 3 now and his toilet training is basically delayed in order for him to develop language skills that will alert me to any reason to be concerned....It is sad when you as a mother find yourself telling your 2 1/2 year old little boy that his privates are only for him and No one can touch them...except the doctor and mommy...

She is not allowed to get into our bed in the morning to cuddle--except on mommies side of the bed....No sleep overs and to be honest she can only have play dates at our home where I am watching... We have recently installed security videos in the back of the children's play room--and record when I am not actually up there with them which is rare....

Yes, she deserves a normal life....and it is sad this has to be the way it is...........but when there is a beautiful child who has lost their innocence in the household this MUST be done in order to protect all the family members.

This is the reality of Our sexually abused child. One moment of acting out is enough to know that the child does have it in them to act out.... We as parents cannot be there at every moment. It is painful with we need to tell the school that our child cannot use the bathrooms with the other children and MUST use only the teachers bathroom....It is hard when the 'little things' come up and we are in a situation where a safety plan has to be made... It hurts to tell the in-laws that it is NOT a good idea for your beautiful child to go upstairs with their children and play unsupervised....and why.....

I personally have my work cut out for me in protecting my HUSBAND and My little boy from the loss of innocence---it is so very hard to face and deal with the REALITIES that a sexually abused child might have .... No not all of us act out--but when it happens once it is likely to be an issue...

My personal advice is that there are families who are equipped to deal with sexualized behaviors and I would advise if at all possible to keep younger children out of the line of fire. There is NO REASON to have one child with a loss of innocence become two children if it is at all possible to avoid....