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I think this is going to be more of the same advice, but the sad thing is that many of us have accidentally learned this lesson the hard way. I would never advocate for a child older then the one you have to be brought in the home and that goes double for one who may have been assaulted and may show assaultive behaviors. Ours were in the home for 7 years before history repeated itself, but it did and my daughter was hurt. My advice is to take in a child younger then your own and that way that child can be part of the experience and not a potential victim.
Good luck.
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Happy mom to 2 daughters, one by birth the other by adoption
Adoption journey: homestudy completed 7/04, signed with facilitator 11/04, matched 12/04, daughter born 2/05, adoption final 4/05
Fost/Adopt journey: legal risk, preadoptive placement of V 10/08, state went to reuniting 1/09, V back w/family 7/09.
9/09 preadoptive placement from photolisting with boy T 7 y.o., placement 11/09
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