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Obviously with Cantstopmommin's additional info, this should not be viewed as "normal" sexual behavior. I agree that you need to consider what would be required from you to protect your other children, but you also must consider what is best for this little boy.
He is not technically perping because of his age. You need to look up information about sexually reactive behaviors - there are support groups for children with these issues - seek one out and talk with a therapist who specializes in these issues. They can give you a better idea of what treatment would entail.
At training with such a counselor, we were told that everytime a child is able to do these behaviors (whether caught or not) it increases the pathology of the behavior. So, putting him in an environment where he has opportunity to do these things might not be best for him.
A side thought to this is... Since he has been sexually abused, he needs to be given the certainty that he is in a safe place where it will not happen again in order to begin healing. While I do not doubt for a minute that you can provide that, look at it from his perspective. Again, whether he's caught or not isn't the issue. In his mind, if he is able to do behaviors on others and you are unable to stop him (due to an inability to monitor every interaction), then he might have a hard time believing that you can stop others from abusing him. Does that make sense? It's not really logical from our adult perspective, but perfectly rational based on his life experiences.
I guess what I'm saying is he might do best in a home where there are no other children... no opportunity to be sexually reactive... more personal freedom for him since he wouldn't need constant monitoring... a lot of one on one time to help with his therapeutic process...
Please don't underestimate the amount of time and stress keeping all of your kids safe would take. With a new baby, you will be required to respond to the babies needs immediately. This little guy could use that to his advantage... It's not a choice he's making... it doesn't mean he wants to... it is the result of extreme failure of the adults in his life to keep him safe. It will take much work for him to overcome.
I have lived with a sexually reactive child who behaved inappropriately. I had four kids total, so I know what you would be up against.
Finally, have you talked to the caseworker about your pregnancy? Have they expressed to you whether they believe that would created an additional challenge to having him placed?
I really commend you for making such a contientious decision. As well as your caseworker for being so honest about the issues you potentially face.
I look forward to hearing what you decide and wish you and your family all the best.
Cobb
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