[Chandini]

Hi!

Thanks for your reply. I am taking a breather from the adoption work as it has been emotionally draining and physically exhausting. My peculiar circumstances make this process all the more challenging that an adoption would normally be.

We are open to all kinds of adoptions i.e. infant; open adoption; closed adoption and a waiting child adoption from the foster care system. regarding the last option - I have a general idea but I need to get a better understanding on how the system works - chinks and all - however, since we are going to be parents for the first time, I am doubtful of being able to rise to the challenge of parenting a child older than 4. We have been down the dear birthmother route a couple of times but felt a little played by the agency and decided to take a breather.

Thanks for your book list - am sure it will help immensely - we had worked with Catholic Charities for an international adoption - on the domestic front - they said they told us that they were a religious org and placed children on that basis. So we need to look for a non denominational agency.