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My job is a web development manager for a major company, so I am pro-web technology. I believe the websites are doing a dis-service right now. Let me explain.
We saw several several kids on adoptuskids.org and then registered ourselves on the West Virginia state adoption website. None have even acknowledged us.
I do not want to sound cold, but we have had no luck with any of the kids shown on any website so far. These websites, including my home state of PA, almost seem like a farce in that the kids either are not available or they do not want to be adopted out either in-state nor especially out of state.
We had thought there were a few kids in Texas that looked like they may be interested in us, but they have gone silent. In my book, silence is not good.
We have given up emailing, snail mailing and calling about kids because it has not produced any results in 8 months. I'm exhausted after making literally 100's of calls. Plus, my agency doesn't like us calling around the system. So, I will let it up to our small agency and their limited resources to find a kid who needs us.
We also went to the June PA State-Wide conference, met many county workers who were very friendly. They won't even talk to us now. We inquired about many kids but none have been matched with us yet. There was one kid that we were interested in, who they said was a nice kid. Only after months of waiting, we finally received his profile. He was on 5 psychotropic medications and had many issues. Talk about "bait and switch". We asked for more pictures or a video of this young man, but were told we had to make our decision based on the profile only. I am frustrated with the whole process because I want to understand the kid's "content of character", not just a bunch of cold facts (like he was bi-polar). This kid had moderate issues, and we may have been qualified and able to adopt him, but we had to say "no" because of the cold facts. What a heart breaker.
We have changed out goal to foster-adopt, since half the kids come from foster care. Like you said, even if the foster kid leaves us, at least we can do some good while awaiting a permanent placement.
Press on, regardless.
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