[SadieAnn]

Brandy - I do hope we get that answer & I wish we could ask him directly. Unfortunately both bparents have opted "not" to meet us. So our bdad info comes from 2 sources: bdad & bmom ocassionally (not often) talk, then bmom tells counselor & counselor tells us. We have told ourselves we will continue to believe that communication link is being honest about what bdad has said. (Thinking otherwise only makes one crazy). Through that source bdad has continued to tell bmom that he'll support her plans to place.

The 2nd chain of info comes from bdad's atty to agency atty to us. It is thru that source of info that they are asking for dna testing. The agency atty is trying to find out bdad's intentions, but so far no confirmation.

We entered this adoption path trying to educate ourselves and eventually decided "open" adoption would be a good option for us. Ironically this bmom has opted not to meet us (she did choose us from our profile & we have exchanged some precious info) & says she wants no contact after birth.

First we were sad for the child. Plus we really wanted to meet the bparents just to gather info to share with child as he grew up. Now I see a whole new benefit... it's awful to get this info 3rd hand. There is nothing more helpful then being able to have face to face conversation.

Dream - Thank you for sharing. I am so glad it worked out for you! I cannot even imagine the sleepless nights you had!