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Yes, i do have a carrier as well as a sling...I use it mostly when we are out and about....I've used it a couple of times at home...but it is to hard to really get things done with her in it......bending over alot......and she is really getting heavy....I'm not sure how much she weighs...but she has to be over 20lbs by now. At her 6th month check-up she was 16lbs something ounces now she is 8 months.
If I'm going to be in one certian room for a while doing dishes...cooking dinner..folding laundry...then i bring her with me and put her in one of her jumpers or activity centers....as long as i don't leave the room...or go to far away from her she is fine(sometimes she cries just because she wants to be held).
My problem is when I have to leave the room for only a minute or a couple minutes.....i don't want to have to bring her for every tiny jot down the hall. It wouldn't bother me if it were just one cry here or there....but it is this loud top or her lungs shreiking every single time i walk away from her.....ALL DAY LONG!!!!
In my mind I know she isn't dying..and it is probably good for her to learn that she can't be with me constantly....but that I always return. But in my heart...i feel like I'm the worst mom in the world....she needs me...she is really scared...and doesn't know how to deal when i'm out of sight.
I try and get things done going from this room to that room etc.....while trying to ignore the crying....but it just gets to me. I have to go rescue her and let her know I am still here and I still love her. It keeps me from getting my work done...and then I feel fustrated because I'm home all day but feel like I can't do anything...unless she is attatched to me.
She is my first priority of course.....before anything alse.....I just can't wait for her to finally realize that Mommy will be back and she can keep herself entertained for a short time.
I know in my years of dealing with infertility and trying to adopt that i used to hate people who complained about taking care of babies or kids....I always said i would be greatful for every little thing they did the good and the bad.....I still am...I just wish there was a way to keep her happy and do everything else I need to do. Maybe I will get out the sling again and start conditioning my back to wearing it...cause it sounds like that is my only other option.....other than letting her cry...or picking her up every single place I go.
Thank you for your advice....I definately appreciate it....it's just easier said than done.
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