[tbristow]

Yes, I am journaling to our son. I started periodically early in the process. It became more frequent after the referral.

Sands, I haven't been through what you have, but I agree that honesty is probably best. You were referred those other children, you didn't actually "pick" them. In the end it will show how you waited for the two you end up getting. You've had quite the process compared to most of us. IMO I think it's important that they know that. They'll know how much you wanted them.