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Shortly after she asked for the items back, she asked us if we would be interested in adopting the baby she was carrying. We indicated that we would love to have ds's 1/2 sibling. Over the next 2 weeks she changed her mind back and forth a 1/2 dozen times. At that time I told her it seemed like she was having a hard time and maybe she shouldn't make a decision yet as she still had 6 months til the baby was due. I knew that I couldn't emotionally deal with the mind changing every few days and didn't think that she could either. I haven't heard from her since then (early September). Her phone number has been disconnected, her mother's phone number has been disconnected and both email addresses I had are no longer working. I have continued to send letters and pictures to the last address I had for her and have heard nothing in return. I do not know what her plans are for her unborn child and at this point I don't really care. For the sake of my son, I want to keep in contact with her and I am sad that she may have chosen to end contact with us. What can I do at this point? Should I continue to send letters and pictures to her? Should I send a Christmas package like usual? She has sent him Christmas presents since he was born and I really hope she will again this year but it seems like she has just vanished and it makes me sad. Does anyone have any insite or suggestions?

Cherie