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I can see where you are wanting to do the right thing, or you wouldn't have asked for advice. If you felt it was safe for him to visit the grandmother the first summer, has something changed since then to make you feel like his safety would be jeopordized around her?
Being that you say your son is sad that he can't see his birthmother complicates things. Kids don't always understand the whats and wherefores of things behind the scenes. All he knows is that he misses her. You said he is in counseling, so maybe that will be a positive step. I'd be sure the counselor is knowledgeable with adoption issues, though...that's a whole seperate set of issues.
Perhaps you will be able to get some good advice from other adoptive moms...there are some great ones here on the forum. I sure hope you are able to find a comfortable medium that best meets the needs of your son.
~D
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