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He is hurt by the fact that he hasn't got to be with his mother. She won't keep a job, drinks, who knows what else. Never has a stable life. She used to tell him she would straighten up and get him back but never did. She was arrested and charged with child neglect when he was 3 for leaving him locked in the car while she spent hours in a bar. He was asleep in the car, woke up frightened and alone and started crying which alerted someone to call the police. He feels that it has been all his fault they are not together. The biological maternal grandmother who helped raise him has been in rehab for crack and alchohol, is an alcoholic still, and treated him like a slave to clean her house, do her laundry, fetch her beer called him a liar and a thief and treated him awful. She sent him to me, then didn't want him back for a visit over his first summer break away. BUT NOW, she wants to talk to him and tells him she loves him. Nothing has changed from either of them though. Birth mom had a 2nd child and recently abandoned her with the birth dad. Grandma still drinks. I just don't see how a relationship with them would BENEFIT him in anyway. If they were mature, responsible people I would not have a problem with it.
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