[melissa63901]

I have a 10 year old son I adopted at age 8 who was my nephew by marriage at the time. Since the adoption, my husband left me. I have a bio daughter by him and we adopted his nephew. NOW, the child was raised the first 7 years being passed between birth mom and maternal grandma. Neither wanted him therefore he was shipped to me and his uncle. I adopted him so that we could cover him on insurance, etc. NOW< birth mom and maternal grandmother, etc. want to see, visit, and or talk to my child. He wants these things too. They all feel like since my husband left that they would never have let him go stay with me permanently. They did not want the responsibility of raising him but they want the luxury of a relationship with him. This child has been diagnosed ADD / Depressive. But, I don't think he has been diagnosed properly or medicated properly. A new Christian based counseler I found who is wonderful thinks that he is passive/agressive, has attachment disorder, and may be bipolar2. I looked up this information and thinik we may be more on the right path. HOW CAN THESE people want a casual relationship with someone they have messed up so bad???I know he loves them and jsut wants their love and acceptance but it puts me in the middle. Has anyone else had any experience similar???? Thanks in advance.