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Julie,
This is a perspective from an adoptee, I thought twice before writing this so I hope its ok.
A lot of adoptee's have such curiosity about their birth parents and thats what drives them to find them, but when found they just want to meet them and then leave it a alone, sometimes possibly keep loose contact, but nothing too close.
They already have their family and life, but have a strong need to know their roots.
I am looking for my birth father at the moment and my intention is to see him, if he will allow that and tell him I have had a good life so he knows things turned out ok and then move on.
This may sound harsh or selfish, but it's just they way it is I'm afraid. Of course each situation is different and some people would do things differently.
I can only imagine what it must be like for birth mothers who find their children, very difficult indeed all the emotion and sometimes expectations, its all so very difficult.
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